| Refusing requests is Ruth's
Begun's Lesson 27. She follows the elements of instruction
in her teaching, i.e. establishing a need, introducing applications,
modeling the skill, behavior rehearsal (role playing), practice
outside the classroom and independent usage.
The cornerstone of the lesson is identifying the skill
components, which she identifies as:
- Thinking about the the consequences of accepting or
refusing a request.
- Making a decision about accepting or refusing the request.
- If you refuse, do so in a polite manner with a comforting
tone of voice.
- Give the person a reason why you cannot so what he asked.
Educational
Objective: The student will graciously refuse a request
from someone.
Language Arts Standard: Listening
& Speaking/Reading & Writing
Materials
Needed:
The Prop Box
Brainstorm Form
Appropriate Rubric: One for each student to complete
during each role play. To download the student rubric,
click here 
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The Lesson:
• Identify Need
• Introductory Activity: Brainstorm-situations when
you have had to say "no"
• Define Steps and Sequences of Skill
1.
Look at the person directly and use their name.
2. Listen completely to the request.
3. State "I'm sorry."
4. Give a reason why you cannot do what was asked of you.
5. Say "I'm glad you asked me."
6. Offer to do something else or the same thing at another
time. "James, I can't help you with your schoolwork
tonight because my brother is having a birthday party. Thanks
for asking, though. Do you want to study together tomorrow
night?"
• Model the Skill
• Role Plays/Classroom Discussion
• Applications Extension: Decline a request in writing
• Independent Uses
Use characters created in the Prop Box and role play five
situations.
Rubric
for the Role Plays
Student
(Speaker)____________________________ Student (Subject)____________________________
Date: _____________________ Observer's
Name:___________________________________________
Social
Skill: ___________________________________
| Observations: |
No |
Yes |
| Did the student look at the person and use their name? |
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| Did the student listen to the complete request, maintaining
eye contact? |
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| Did the student state "I'm sorry"? |
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| Did the student give a believable reason why he could
not comply? |
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| Did the student thank the person for asking? |
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| Did the student offer to comply with the request at
another time? |
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Score/Points |
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Additional
Comments: _______________________________________________________________________
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